I really took some time into thinking whether I should write this article or not. I realize its really putting myself out there, and this is something Ive never been comfortable talking about. And what guy would be?
Sexual impotence is by far the most embarrassing condition any guy could have. Nothing gives a guy more anxiety, stress, and even depression then not being able to connect with their mate sexually because "it doesnt work".
But I decided to bite the bullet and put myself out there, because this is something that I suffered with for years, and was able to find a way to cure it forever. I know this is a major problem for millions of men; most are too shy to talk about it.
Thats okay, so was I.
I could never ask my friends back in the day for advice on this, because theyd probably just make jokes. So I just kept quiet and dealt with it until I found a way to fix it, because it is by no means a permanent condition.
If by coming out and sharing this experience can help someone, then I have an obligation to do it.
What is Sexual Impotence?
Sexual impotence is when a guy cant achieve and/or sustain an erection. Its also when a guy cant have sex for more than 5 seconds without having an orgasm.
Embarrassing right?
Of course it is, but this is a problem for literally millions of men. Youre not alone, so unless you have some serious issues down there, be relieved that the cure isnt too complicated. Most of the time it can be fixed with just a few simple changes in your lifestyle.
What Causes Sexual Impotence?
First off, I am not a doctor, so I cannot give any expert medical advice. Im just a regular everyday guy. However, I can relate to anyone whos going through this, and can share how I overcame it. I never went to any doctor, this was something I had to find myself.
There are two types of sexual impotence. Physical and psychological.
Physical
The physical aspect is usually caused by:
• Being Overweight
• Smoking (Tobacco or Marijuana)
• Poor Diet
• Poor Exercise
• Alcohol
All of these impair the bodies ability to sustain sexual intercourse. Sex requires a lot of physical energy and takes a toll on the body. If youre not taking care of it, its abilities to do things like sexual intercourse is very limited.
For me, it was marijuana and alcohol. I had to give both of those up before the problem could be solved forever.
And you know what? I am so much happier without those. Years ago I used to think those substances enhanced my sexual experience and made it more fun. I couldnt have been more wrong! Those actually dulled my senses. Not just physical senses, but the spiritual senses as well.
Sex is a deeply spiritual act. And those substances blinded me to that. Youll know what I mean if youre in the same situation and you eliminate them from your life.
If your problem is poor diet or being overweight. Heres an article with some advice on how to eat healthier and what ingredients to watch out for.
Psychological
The psychological aspects are a bit more complicated because it can be more difficult in finding the source. You can be the most physically fit guy on Earth, yet still be sexually impotent. If this is the case, youre more than likely suffering from something psychological. Dont worry, it isnt permanent. With some lifestyle changes you can solve most of these issues.
A few examples of psychological causes are:
• Stress and Anxiety
• Fear of Intimacy
• Being hurt in the past
• Addiction to Porn and Masturbation
This is a bit trickier because men put a lot of pressure on themselves to perform well in bed. Or should I say, society puts a lot of pressure on men.
The same goes for women. Society puts a lot of pressure on women to look like the women in magazines and movies. Youre not beautiful if you dont look like the latest Victorias Secret model. Bull-shit.
If we let media and society get into our heads and believe what theyre saying, it can make us feel anxious, self-conscious, and afraid. This can easily lead to psychological sexual impotence. The key is to find the root cause of whats affecting you, and heal from it. I know this can be difficult, especially at first.
The one I really want to focus on is porn and masturbation. This without a doubt, is the root cause of sexual impotence in men; and is also the most common.
Let me explain.
Think of the human brain like a computer. Everything you do in life wires your brain to do and react to specific things. So if youre doing something repeatedly over and over again, your brain is going to re-wire itself for that.
Its like someone whos trying to learn a musical instrument such as guitar. At first they suck and have no idea what theyre doing. But if they stick with it and practice every day, soon enough the brain re-wires itself to know how to land each finger on each string quickly without even thinking about it.
Its the same concept with porn and masturbation.
If a guy is participating in this regularly. He is re-wiring his brain to only be aroused via self-stimulation and visual images. So when he gets with his wife or girlfriend, his brain isnt programmed to get aroused by another real person, and is impotent.
Frequent masturbation over time also leads to the tissue in that area to callus. This makes it less sensitive and dull, leading to not being able to get an erection without some serious stimulation. Like the finger tips of a guitar player. Overtime he cannot feel the steel strings pressing into his fingertips anymore because theyve callused.
Premature Ejaculation
Another serious sexual issue for many men. There is no magic-pill for this. I think most men, even if they dont suffer from this now, did at one point in their lives. If youre currently struggling with this, be relieved that this isnt a permanent thing if you dont want it to be. With practice you can learn to go as long as you want. You can learn to control it.
How?
The answer is so simple that men make it difficult.
Breathing and Self-Control
I read a quote once that said "He who controls his breath, controls the universe", and that is absolutely true. This can be difficult because during the act youre not likely thinking about much else right? The problem is not being calm and relaxed. Breathing enhances self-control and relaxes you. Taking deep, controlled breaths, not panting, just slow, deep breaths will greatly calm you and enhance your longevity. Also, making sure to not cross the point of no return until youre ready. Remaining focused, relaxed, and breathing deep will keep you in control. When you feel the point of no return coming on, stop for a few seconds and take some breaths before continuing, it will reside. After some practice this will become second nature to you.
Conclusion
Overcoming sexual impotence is something that takes some discipline. Its not something that happens overnight as you need to give your brain some time to re-wire out of the old habits and addictions which are causing it. The key is finding whats causing it for you and taking immediate action into reversing it. If you want a quick, temporary fix, go to a doctors office and get some Viagra. You can get a hard-on, but some side affects are involved. Know that those pills dont do anything to solve the problem. They only sweep it under the rug and making it worse in the long run. Theres no magic-pill, but if I had to suggest a natural, healthy remedy to help enhance libido. Which works very well by the way. It would be Maca Root.
I hope this is clear and helpful. If you have any questions, comments, or if Ive missed anything. Please feel free to use the comment box below. Thank you!
Sean Burrows loves to learn and discover new ways to improve the quality of peoples lives. He studies personal development and health rigorously, and shares his lifes lessons, creative ideas, and healthy recipes through his Personal Growth blog.
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